The Muse and another senior manager were frustrated. We had an action request; the young manager designated to carry out our request stalled. And stalled. And kept stalling.
We called. We sent e-mails. My colleague and I called each other to discuss what to do. We both had plenty on our plates; talking to and e-mailing each other about this person’s stall (including an exasperated discussion at 11:00 PM one night) was not a productive use of our time. But neither was making phone calls and/or sending the junior manager e-mails. While we weren’t exactly being ignored, we were unmistakeably getting The Soft Stall. Frustrating. We wanted action!
The surprise ending?
Everything worked out the way the junior manager expected it to work out (we were concerned that the situation wasn’t working out at all) — if only she could manage to stall us for at least another month or so.
Which she did.
Her Soft Stall (while infuriating at the time) was deliberate, smart — and, frankly, productive. Talk about managing the managers!
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Thinking back over many situations in many settings, there are many instances in which The Muse would have been wise to stall. And on the occasions that she deliberately stalled, she rarely (truth be told) succeeded in stalling artfully.
When you need more time – examples: you’re waiting for more information to make a better decision; an initiative needs more work before it can be presented it to senior management; an important matter needs time for all its elements to become clearer to all concerned — the progressive stall technique is ideal. Here’s how it’s applied:
- When first asked, tell the person that you’ll get back to him or her. When asked a second time, repeat. If pressed to indicate exactly when you will respond, try to be vague — suggest a few days, a few weeks, whatever is appropriate.
- If you’re seriously pressed and still need more time, tell the person there are more aspects to the matter than you realized. Ask to meet to discuss “everything”; set a date as far into the future as possible.
- The day before the meeting, reschedule.
- Don’t show up for the rescheduled meeting. Send someone to represent you who has no power to do anything except to report back what was discussed at the meeting and to apologize for your absence, explaining you had an unexpected conflict.
Phil Porter, who describes the progressive stall technique in Eat or Be Eaten (Prentice Hall: New Jersey) says you can use the last no-show tactic two or three times. The Muse doubts it, but maybe Porter is right. He is right about this point: soon enough the other person (or persons) will decide to by-pass you and begin to work up the organization chain. But by then, as happened to The Muse and her colleague, the reason for stalling may have disappeared.